Accommodate one or both partners' ADHD without tilting the relationship out of balance ("parent-child" or "nagger-nag-ee")?
Re-discover the joy and attraction that brought them together?
Work best with an ADHD-savvy therapist? Or, if they cannot find a therapist locally, how can they help themselves?
Better cooperate in parenting their children, who might or might not have ADHD?
Learn strategies to cooperatively manage time, money, chores and....intimacy?
These questions, among others, guided the effort behind two landmark books on Adult ADHD and relationships:
- Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions, by Gina Pera and Arthur L. Robin (Routledge; anticipated release October, 2015), with contributions from clinicians who are experts in their fields.
- Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?, by Gina Pera (2008; 1201 Alarm Press).
Soon, these questions and others can be answered with the strategies in ADHD-Focused Success Training.
For thousands of couples in the U.S. alone—and perhaps even millions—the "ADHD piece" will provide the cornerstone to understanding, and healing, their previously intractable struggles.
Manageable Modules, Always Available
Both books provide a solid foundation in understanding
- Adult ADHD,
- Its impact on relationships and other spheres of life, and
- The clinically proven strategies to help these couples.
The online training—one set of courses for clinicians and another set for consumers—will provide a deeper and broader level of understanding, all at the user's pace.
The format consists of narrated video presentations, chapter by chapter, augmented with:
- Short videos carefully selected from outside sources (e.g. animations of neurotransmitter function)
- Select excerpts of video lectures by experts whose work is cited in the book, with links to the full video (e.g. Russell Barkley, PhD, on Executive Functioning, and Xavier Amador, PhD, on resistance to diagnosis, or "denial")
- Original podcasts on key concepts by the authors and Q&A chats with experts
- Downloadable excerpts Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.? (even if you have read the book, having targeted bits of information on hardcopy can make key concepts more "digestible")
- Regular opportunities for Q&A
- Worksheets and informational downloads
- Conveniently organized by topic and sub-topic, for quick scanning when you need a refresher.
The online training is organized by topic and sub-topic, each generally 10-15 minutes long. These short modules make for a quick "refresher course" on a given topic.
Moreover, you need not scan an hour-long (or longer) video or re-read dozens of pages just to find the section you need right then.
For example, if you forget the chief purposes of the daily "check in," you can review just that segment.
- Always "on"
If you have an Internet connection and can access our site (some countries restrict Internet access), the courses are always at your fingertips. The initial fee grants participants access for one year, with an annual reduced fee thereafter.
- Regularly updated
User feedback will be solicited and considered in continually improving content and adding new material
- Guidance you can rely upon
With a combined 55 years experience, we are respected experts in the field of Adult ADHD, particularly as it can affect relationships. You can learn more about our backgrounds at About the Presenters.
Search Our Professional Directory
Consumers have become wary of therapists who claim Adult ADHD expertise yet actually know less then their well-read clients. They realize that existing online directories for therapists have a take-all-comers approach: Any clinician willing to pay the fee receives a listing; there is no "vetting" process.
For years, readers of Gina's book have written to ask her for recommendations nationwide—and even worldwide. She fully realizes how vulnerable these couples can be, often at the end of their ropes after years of discord and attempts at marital therapy that failed to recognize ADHD. Sometimes, one or the other partner is willing to give it only "one shot." Much rides on their selection of a therapist.
To serve both consumers and clinicians, our professional directory is more select.
To purchase a listing, therapists are required to have achieved a passing grade on at least one of our online offerings; the listing will indicate if both courses have been taken:
1. A home-study test of 20 questions (15 CE hours, NBCC)
2. The full online training for ADHD Success Training, in ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy (in development)
Even though many countries worldwide do not recognize Adult ADHD, epidemiological studies indicate the prevalence is roughly the same worldwide. We hope these courses serve participants who might otherwise lack resources and guidance.
Timeline of Availability
We expect to have the online training for clinicians available by January 2016, with the consumer training several months after that.
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Free Support Groups for Adults with ADHD and the Partners of Adults with ADHD
Gina offers these longtime sources of free support:
Online group for the partners of adults with ADHD (a private Yahoo Group)
Face-to-face groups in Palo Alto, CA (one for adults with ADHD and one for the partners of adults with ADHD)
ADHD Roller Coaster blog: Named a "Top ADHD Blog" for 2014, 2015, and 2016, with departmental features including:
- The You, Me, and ADHD book club: A chapter by chapter essay with open discussion
- Common Myths about ADHD
- News and Research
- Medications (including a 7-part series of genotyping to inform medication decisions)
- Personal Essays
- ADHD Partner Survey
- Tools and Strategies