- Accommodate one or both partners' ADHD without tilting the relationship out of balance ("parent-child" or "nagger-nag-ee")?
- Re-discover the joy and attraction that brought them together?
- Work best with an ADHD-savvy therapist? Or, if they cannot find a therapist locally, how can they help themselves?
- Better cooperate in parenting their children, who might or might not have ADHD?
- Learn strategies to cooperatively manage time, money, chores and....intimacy?
- Work together on joint strategies while the ADHD partner also learns individual strategies around organization, planning, and more?
These questions and many more guided the effort behind two landmark books on Adult ADHD and relationships:
- Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions, by Gina Pera and Arthur L. Robin (Routledge, 2016)
- Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?, by Gina Pera (1201 Alarm Press, 2008)
In turn, these guides inform the comprehensive strategies in ADHD-Focused Success Training.
For thousands of couples in the U.S. alone—and perhaps even millions—the "ADHD piece" will provide the cornerstone to understanding, and healing, their previously intractable struggles.
But make no mistake: Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy relies on the ADHD partner maximizing individual strategies as well.
Manageable Modules, Always Available
Both books provide a solid foundation in understanding
- Adult ADHD,
- Its impact on relationships and other spheres of life, and
- The clinically proven strategies to help these individuals and couples.
The online training—one set of courses for clinicians and another set for consumers—will provide a deeper and broader level of understanding, all at the user's pace.
The format consists of narrated video presentations, chapter by chapter, 15-30 minutes each, augmented with:
- Short videos carefully selected from outside sources (e.g. animations of neurotransmitter function)
- Select excerpts of video lectures by experts whose work is cited in the book, with links to the full video (e.g. Russell Barkley, PhD, on Executive Functioning, and Xavier Amador, PhD, on resistance to diagnosis, or "denial")
- Original podcasts on key concepts by the authors and interviews with experts
- Downloadable excerpts on key concepts from Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?
- Regular opportunities for Q&A
- Worksheets and informational downloads
Proceed at your own pace. Re-visit previous lessons as much as you like.
Conveniently organized by topic and sub-topic, for quick scanning when you need a refresher.
The online training is organized by topic and sub-topic, each generally 10-15 minutes long. These short modules make for a quick "refresher course" on a given topic.
Moreover, you need not scan an hour-long (or longer) video or re-read dozens of pages just to find the section you need right then.
For example, if you forget the chief purposes of the daily "check in," you can review just that segment.
If you have an Internet connection and can access our site (some countries restrict Internet access), the courses are always at your fingertips. The initial fee grants participants access for one year, with an annual reduced fee thereafter.
User feedback will be solicited and considered in continually improving content and adding new material
Guidance you can rely on
With a combined 55 years experience, we are respected experts in the field of Adult ADHD, particularly as it can affect relationships. You can learn more about our backgrounds at About the Presenters.
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Consumers have grown rightfully wary of therapists who claim Adult ADHD expertise yet actually know less than their clients—or fail to recognize ADHD at all.
For years, readers of Gina's book have written to ask her for recommendations nationwide—and even worldwide. Having been in the same situation years ago, she knows first-hand how vulnerable these couples can be. They often hang preciously at the end of their ropes, following years of discord and attempts at marital therapy that failed to recognize ADHD. Sometimes, one or the other partner is willing to give it only "one shot." Much rides on their selection of a therapist.
To serve both consumers and clinicians, our professional directory is more select:
- This directory is designed solely for professionals specializing in ADHD—in children, teens, adults, and the elderly.
- Professionals are encouraged to include specific information about their approach to treating ADHD, including the models, books, and experts they rely upon to inform their practice.
- Professionals can provide consumers with an extra degree of assurance that they are familiar with Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy principles. Each listing indicates if the professional has completed Level 1 and/or Level 2 of ADHD Success Training courses.
Click here to learn more: Professional Directory
Many countries worldwide do not recognize Adult ADHD. Yet, epidemiological studies indicate the prevalence is roughly the same worldwide.
We hope these courses serve participants who might otherwise lack resources and guidance.
Timeline of Availability
The Level 1 training for clinicians is available now. It is based on reading Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy and passing a 20-question multiple-choice test (80% is passing).
We expect to have the Level 2 online training for clinicians available by Fall, 2018, with the consumer training several months after that.
To be notified of availability, please be sure to sign up for our mailing list, below. (We do not sell or share our list, and we have neither time nor inclination to send unnecessary e-mail.)
Free Support Groups for Adults with ADHD and the Partners of Adults with ADHD
Gina offers these longtime sources of free support:
Face-to-Face Discussion Group for Adults with ADHD, Palo Alto
Face-to-Face Discussion Group for the Partners of Adults with ADHD (and sometimes parents of adults with ADHD), Palo Alto.
ADHD Roller Coaster blog: Named a "Top ADHD Blog" for 2014, 2015, and 2016, with departmental features including:
- The You, Me, and ADHD book club: A chapter by chapter essay with open discussion
- Common Myths about ADHD
- News and Research
- Medications (including a 7-part series of genotyping to inform medication decisions)
- Personal Essays
- ADHD Partner Survey
- Tools and Strategies