Solve Your Adult ADHD Puzzle (including Relationships)

At your own pace. 

In your own space.

A life-changing course for Adult ADHD-challenged individuals, couples, and loved ones. Professionals, too!

With internationally respected expert Gina Pera.

Gina Pera's Online Course Solving Your Adult ADHD Puzzle


A Smarter Way to Solve
Your Adult ADHD Puzzle —
Including in Relationships — and
Speed Your Learning Curve

If you’ve lived with Adult ADHD—in yourself or a loved oneyou know

It can feel impossible to grasp the depth, breadth, and sheer variety of potential challenges.

It’s like nailing jello to the wall.

Especially when the diagnosis comes later in life. 

It started in childhood as a highly variable syndrome called ADHD.

By now, however, it has morphed into a murky mix of symptoms, misinterpretations, negative or distorted feedback and self-talk, and counterproductive coping responses.

The Good News? We’re not dealing with jello! 

We’re dealing with predictable, well-studied patterns—and we have proven approaches.

I’m so glad you’re here!

Gina Pera

I’d love to answer your questions and help you decide if the course is right for you. Click here to send an email to me!

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Imagine How It Feels

Solving those Life-Draining, Beneath-Your-Intelligence, Ridiculous Challenges... (you know which ones I mean!)

We Rode the ADHD Roller Coaster—
So You Don't Have To

My husband received his ADHD diagnoses decades ago—thanks to me puzzling the pieces when almost no one was talking about it.

Ever since, I’ve worked to create awareness, improve treatment outcomes, and support others riding the ADHD Roller Coaster.

With an online community that just welcomed its 10,000th member, I’ve listened to thousands of stories and struggles – and lived a few myself!  I know where you get stuck AND how to help you clear your path.

With this course, Solving Your ADHD Puzzle, I’ve combined the science, along with my decades of experience with the lived-experience, and created a methodical framework for slowing that ADHD Roller Coaster—or at least making it a more enjoyable ride!

Think of it as an engaging weekend workshop — from the comfort of your own home.

You can learn more about my credentials at the  bottom of this page.

You're An Individual, Not a Stereotype

Sure, you share common challenges— disorganization, listening , remembering, and more. To one degree or another.

Yet, in my experience, you start feeling truly in control of your life only when you, as the adult with ADHD and/or the partner:

  • Start methodically untangling your particular puzzle pieces
  • Adopt an optimistic, problem-solving mindset
  • Revise counterproductive misinterpretations—that keep you stuck
  • Reverse mind-numbing dysfunctional patterns
  • Adopt new coping responses—and stop the old, destructive ones
  • Take steps to manage core symptoms—but first identify what they are!
  • Get traction on tasks large and small—by supporting Executive Functions
  • Enjoy more success in life, at home, on the job—more fun, less frustration
  • Spend more time doing what you mean to do
  • Become a savvier mental-healthcare consumer
  • Enjoy your relationship—more teamwork, more harmony and intimacy


Is This for Individuals or Couples? It's For Everyone!

The 9 Clear Steps to
Solving Your Adult ADHD Puzzle —
in One Course

Goal:  Building a strong foundation in our modern, scientific understanding of what ADHD is—and is not.

When we operate from misinformation—or scattered bits— our footing remains slippery.   We might even remain stuck in “denial.”

You might feel well-educated on Adult ADHD—and you might be.

But consider for a moment that ADHD is a huge “market” these days—and the Internet has no watchdog.  Neither does  book-publishing.

How can you tell expert consensus from random opinions? By learning with a respected guide.

This is your life we’re talking about.  Your future.  Facts and evidence matter.

Goal:  Know what makes the ADHD diagnosis in general—and in your case. Step by step.

Even adults diagnosed long ago can remain unclear about their evaluation.

Fuzziness fosters uncertainty or skepticism —and impedes progress.

How can you track treatment goals—and celebrate progress—if your specific symptoms remain vague? 

Not yet diagnosed?  If you believe anti-psychiatry critics, you might view the ADHD diagnostic criteria as simply one or two behaviors, such as procrastinating and forgetting.  

Reviewing the criteria—the specific symptoms and how they add up to a diagnosis—can help streamline  solutions. 

It can also help you to work best with the evaluating or treating professional. To be pro-active, not passive. To know what’s a symptom vs. poor coping strategy.

Goal: Know what should happen throughout the evaluation process— and boost your confidence as a mental healthcare consumer.

  • Basic evaluation process 
  • Downloadable intake forms
  • Q&A on the basics
  • Why third-party support can be a smart strategy
  • Tips on finding a professional to perform the evaluation or provide other ADHD treatment

Goal: Learn all about the key to optimizing your planning and time-management—as an individual and/or a couple

We approach Executive Functioning  from six essential angles :

  1. Drilling down into the specific  Functions (e.g. planning, organizing, visualizing rewards, etc.)
  2. Eavesdropping on a couple where Executive Functions went missing in action. It’s a too-common scenario that illustrates how long-running conflicts often spring from poor EF.
  3. Reframe our couple’s long-running conflict through the EF lens. (One small habit change could prevent future calamities!)
  4. Understanding how non-ADHD savvy therapy tends to  misperceive EF-related challenges as intentional or pathological behaviors.
  5. Clear emotional roadblocks that prevent getting organized around time and tasks.
  6.  Revisit a tragic accident from 1848—often credited with paving the way to the EF models. (Surprise! Brain affects behavior)

Goal: Identifying the  misinterpretations and poor coping responses that fuel your  ADHD Triple Whammy Roller Coaster.  As an individual and as a couple.

In the introductory module, we took a sneak peek.  Here, we go deep.

We explore how each person’s Triple Whammy Roller Coaster develops over time. Typically in three stages—symptoms, misinterpretations, coping responses.

Once you start distinguishing core symptoms from “bad habits”, you gain clarity on handling each.

Soon, your  coaster becomes a smoother, more enjoyable ride.  


Goal: De-tangling your day-to-day interactions to see exactly where misinterpretations and counterproductive coping responses are creating chronic problems.

Think of the Dysfunctional Interaction Cycle as how your Triple Whammy Roller Coaster plays out on a micro-day-to-day level. 

It is loosely based on Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) adapted for ADHD and is a  centerpiece of our Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy™ model.

This four-phase cycle happens so quickly—our thoughts and emotions so automatic—we don’t even notice it.

In this step, you identify your negative cycles—and take steps to turn those gears in a positive direction.

Goal: Giving yourself the time and space to absorb  news of the ADHD diagnosis, actual or likely

Have you taken the opportunity to sort through the mix of emotions — from relief to grief?

  1.  Why this process has lasting importance
  2.  Expect reactions to shift, especially in the early days
  3.  Explore the stages of reactions, as noted by two ADHD researchers: first for the adults with ADHD and then for their loved ones and partners
  4. Think about what acceptance of the diagnosis means

Goal: Getting an idea of which strategies can help what—and why

  1. Optimizing medication and sleep
  2. Using new tools and habits to support Executive Functioning
  3. Improving communication and seeing how CBT for ADHD can apply to couples.

Future courses cover these topics in-depth.

Goal: Taking stock of your situation, as an individual or a couple, and how you plan to move forward.

You’ll find tools to help you establish your baseline situation—and target goals one by one. 

If you don’t know where you’re going, how will you know when you’re there?

These tools also help you can measure and celebrate the progress to come.

Are you thinking, “Gina, please. I think I’ll remember if there are positive changes”?

Maybe you will. Maybe you won’t. You might be surprised at what some folks forget. And, I don’t mean just those with ADHD!

You Deserve the Best

Maybe you’ve already tried therapy—and even medication. 

It might have worked for a while.  Or, did it made things worse? 

At the very least, you might be wondering:  Is that as good as it gets?

Most likely, no, life can get a whole lot better.

Top ADHD specialists and research scientists have given us solid direction on what works.

My  mission for 20 years has been translating that into real-world application— information, validation, and evidence-based strategies that can truly elevate your life.


Can You COVID-Relate?

Pre-COVID,  finding solid Adult ADHD expertise was hard enough.

Mid-COVID, marginal coping strategies hit their limits. 

Regulations around “Tele-health” eased—bringing more access but also need for caution with “virtual ADHD clinics”. 

Even if the pressure has let up at your house, please don’t wait until the next Big Stressful Event to adopt lasting, pragmatic strategies.


Forget Frustrating
"Tips and Tricks"

A tip here. A blog post there. Dozens of YouTube videos.  A book or two—or ten.

It all has its place—if you can separate wheat from chaff. 

Even with the most accurate information, where is the framework,  the system, for puzzling all the pieces —in a way that makes sense for you?  Not some generic idea of an ADHD-challenged person or couple.

It’s right here.  A systematic approach. Based on the evidence of what works.


Peer Support & Q&A with Gina

Why Is This Course A Stand-Out?

Features and Format

Sample - Interactive Action Steps

Sample - Six Case Couples

ADHD gay male couple Jeff and Carlos

Bonus Module

13 lessons in 5 steps (2:22 hours)

Designed to
—Quickly put you at ease
—Let you know you're among friends and we get it!
—Start identifying and explaining common challenges and solutions

Click each + to learn more:

I invite you to come on in and relax.

Right off the bat, I assure you of four things: 

  1. You are in good company. You are not the only person or couple dealing with these issues. Far from it!
  2. Your predictable ADHD-Related Challenges have explanations—and solutions.
  3. Despite your best efforts  with mental healthcare providers, you might feel that you’re not making the progress you’d hoped for. This is why solid, personalized self-education  is crucial. So is advocating for yourself with providers. 
  4. You’ll have support on this journey.

You’re not alone. Your challenges are not unique—and not “personality flaws.” That’s the first step toward relieving stress and paving a clear path to progress.

You get an idea of what happens at my longtime, popular discussion groups — one for adults with ADHD and one for the partners.

When we misinterpret ADHD symptoms and poor coping attempts, we create unnecessary ups and downs in life—and in relationships. 

When two people are riding the ADHD Roller Coaster, make that a Double Triple Whammy!

Based on composites of real people, each couple is experiencing various common ADHD-related challenges.

Can you relate?  Can these relationship be saved?

Use your handy Action Steps Guide to note when something resonates for you. 

I’ll ask you to think about how “this relationship might be saved”. I’ll share my opinion, too!

Here we continue to nurture optimism that we can “Solve our Adult ADHD puzzle.”

We use a sophisticated but simple model for making sense of your confusing conflicts—and to start moving that cycle in a more positive direction.

It’s based on the CBT-for-ADHD model lies at the heart of our Adult ADHD-Focused Couples Therapy™.   It’s  also the proven standard for individuals with ADHD!

Tired of Forking Over the "ADHD Tax"?


Poorly managed ADHD comes with a price—often a very high one. Call it the ADHD Tax.

  • Replacing lost items — phones, glasses, tools
  • Losing jobs, losing confidence
  • Bouncing down the career ladder
  • Unfinished educational degrees
  • Paying late fees on bills and fines
  • Over-spending, especially on impulse
  •  Losing sleep, poor health
  • Costly therapy or coaching that disappoints
  • Damaged relationships & divorce
  • Devastated hope that the future can be different
What it’s worth to you—getting a better handle on living with your own or your loved one’s ADHD?

I’d love to answer your questions and help you decide if the course is right for you. Click here to send an email to Gina!


Solve Your Adult ADHD Puzzle - Foundations

$ 399
  • Access for Life of the Course (at least 2 years)
  • Topics listed under "The 9 Clear Steps" and "Bonus"
  • 8.5 hours in 36 videos + 2.5 hour BONUS module
  • Self-Paced — with support to keep you on track!
  • Action Step Guides — to personalize lessons
  • Need in-person help? Bring these Guides to a competent therapist (who might not have ADHD expertise) to sort through the more complex issues.
  • Leading since 2004 the first online group for the partners of adults with ADHD—10,000 members and 14,000 posts to date
  • Leading two face-to-face groups in Silicon Valley for 15 years: One for adults with ADHD, one for the partners and other loved ones
  • Conducting the first and most comprehensive survey on Adult ADHD and relationships, with findings included in Dr. Russell Barkley’s clinical guide
  • Blogging at ADHD Roller Coaster, the first website on adult ADHD, where since 2008 I’ve covered the research and real-life issues and provided critical, original guidance on the Concerta generics issue, genetic-testing for ADHD, and more.
  • Attending and presenting at high-level conferences on ADHD, including internationally
  • Reading hundreds of published research papers

Published work:

  • Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?  Endorsed by a Who’s Who of preeminent experts
  • “Counseling Couples with ADHD":  the first-ever chapter couple therapy in the 4th revision of Russell Barkley, PhD's clinical handbook
  • Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy: Clinical Interventions — with Arthur L. Robin, PhD, the first clinical guide for treating ADHD-challenged couples, based on a merging of evidence-based strategies for Adult ADHD and for couple therapy.

Disclosure: No conflicts of interest.
For 22 y ears now, I’ve supported the use of medication as the single-most effective means of managing ADHD. But I have never accepted pharmaceutical industry support of any kind. 
Industry funding of research can be a good thing, when researchers have integrity and disclose the funding.  With what we see online and elsewhere, however, there is less and less disclosure, even with licensed mental-health professionals.